We got it all wrong...

Topic of the day is we got it all wrong. One of my boys and I have had a running conversation on this topic. Let me explain... We are both coming to the age when we know its time to start settling down. We both have a certain type of woman that we like. Now for the sake of sounding shallow looks unfortunately are very important to me, and going to Hampton University(the real HU) my standards are very high. I have dated some extremely gorgeous women in my day, and I have an issue with not going backwards in regards to looks. It's silly but I know me. I kind of have a thing for a little bit Bourgeois women. Problem is, guys will do anything to impress or even just to be around attractive women. They'll buy them things, take them places, and not saying I don't do that but they do it too soon. I'm not gonna buy your attention. You're gonna pay attention to me because I'm me. Just like I pay attention to you because you're you. Its easy to be the "stuntin ass nigga" it's hard to be the disciplined one. If you start out spending you got to keep spending. I find it a best practice to not let on to what I have, but I do drop hints. If I have to basically open my check book to get you, I don't want you. Any brotha with any pride will not let a woman back him in a corner and force him to do things he knows are not financially sound. I don't care how fly she is, how good the sex, or how much you want her. Start out by not giving her shit!!! This way she can concentrate on you and not what you have. Now ladies I'm not saying that you should deal with a broke nigga by any means but you could be missing out on a good guy by playing with the guys that flash dreams before your eyes.

Think about couples that don't have much. These couples are IN LOVE!!!! It's not about what they have or don't have it's all about the two of them. They are so satisfied with each other they don't even pay attention to their circumstances. So does this mean I go get a pretty female that's not used to anything so everything I show her she appreciates, or do I continue to try to match or out do the last lame ass brotha that spoiled a woman terribly because that's all he could do. These cats out here are ruining good women. What happened to the grind together? What happened to young couples getting together and working to build the life they want together? Society has women looking for a guy that's spoiling them taking them on trips and shopping sprees. They're too busy trying to find ready made, high end lifestyle. Typically after these guys buy the females' attention, the girl gets wrapped up in the lifestyle, overlooks clear and evident warning signs, and ends up hurt, bitter, and sometimes a baby mama. We got it all wrong... We need to get back to the basics. Become friends first, make sure we truly like each other, and the sex is good. If we build a foundation solely on what we can do for each other if/when tough times arise we can't make it. I want that "hood love". That we love each other so much that we get crazy jealous love. That if I don't have you my world things just ain't right love. That Mary J. / Method Man "You're all I need" love!!! Where is that??? Does it exist outside the hood??? what do you think?