Not sure why I chose this topic but I figured I'd use my expertise for some good. The importance of good sex in a relationship is often mistaken as a case by case basis. I know a few people that say it's not about the sex, but if we examine this thought it really is. It has a lot to do with the sexual experience of your partner. Most of the time if a female is not into sex its because she has not had enough sexual experience. If a man is not into sex it's usually because someone has had him open in the past that makes the sex hard to duplicate therefore leaving him unsatisfied. Emotions play a HUGE part in this equation. Emotions can make bad sex ok, ok sex good, and good sex great. On that same note emotions make great sex unbelievable. With that said, if you have to follow someone that was an awesome lover and your just ok, emotions can get you through... Sometimes. The worse situation is to have to follow a man that a woman had great sex and was extremely emotionally attached or vice versa. This relationship can work, but just know that that man will always have a piece of her heart. She may not act on it, but that man will always be there no matter how bad the break-up, or how much she says she's over him. If you have her/him emotionally you control your destiny. A man can make sex great as long as he's "equipped". The biggest difficulty for a man is to get in tune with a woman emotionally if he's been there before. Typically he was hurt by a break-up this can cause a wall to form keeping the early sex strictly physical. As long as he has had time to heal from it he can submit to his emotions.
Sex is a learned thing. No matter what guys want to think she's good because of somebody else that got her to open up. Woman aren't typically as sexually open as men. Unfortunately the person that gets her to open up doesn't reap the full benefit of his work. It's the guy after that knows a little bit more than him and now that she's open he takes her to the next level. This guy, or sometimes these guys, are the in between folks that tone her skills. By the time she gets to you she's talkin shit, smackin your ass, bitin your chest, and givin you head that could pull your hamstring. Men on the other hand need to be equipped, and also need some training. Confidence in the bedroom is key for a man. A cocky dude in the bedroom is what a woman wants. You got to know you put gonna put it down before you put it down. Men should never be scared to do something new. She'll tell you if she doesnt like it. What do you have to loose, you're already having sex. In order to enhance your learning men and women should watch "movies" and watch them together. Men speak if you see something you like and pay attention to your woman. Women might not say I want to try that but they may say "Oh", "Wow", "Shit" or if she was talking and then gets really quiet, see what caught her attention. You have to strive to be the best lover your partner has ever had. It's all about pleasing the other. Most of us learned how to please ourselves a long time ago. Never be a selfish lover. You should want the person your with to be satisfied before you "finish" (this is for men). Sex is 40-50% of every relationship. I have to say that because e a relationship can end over sex so we can't say it's not that important. Let's challenge ourselves to try something new with your lover tonight. Go on the internet, or stop by the adult store or maybe just put a little something special on tonight. Spice things up and have a GREAT night.
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